Eliminate Your Shameful Guilt: 3 Reasons To Go Ghost Now!

“The ability to simplify (go ghost) means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.”

Hans Hofmann

Hey there Insighters, I hope you’re all as safe as humanly possible. Admittedly, it’s been quite some time since our last #LifestyleWednesday session.

The last time we were here, we spoke about Facing The Second Half of 2020. But today, we’re gonna be discussing the importance of not taking on anything – temporarily that is.

Indeed, sometimes we can guilt-trip ourselves into believing we’re not suppose to disconnect and go ghost. I know I was. For most of this year, I’ve been trying my best to stay busy and give my best in every situation.

Eventually, I found myself becoming fatigue. Giving irretrievable parts of myself to family, friends, social media, work, and thinking about my future. So much so, that my mental health started to thread in some dangerous waters.

So, to avoid being swallowed alive by my shark-infested inner-psyche, I decided to go ghost for the first time in months. All weekend I had my cellphone turned off. As usual, there was minimal communication with the relatives I lived with.

And in the stillness of a rainy, November weekend, I found myself reconnecting with the things and parts of me I thought were forever lost to the unforgiving waves of life.

In other words, going ghost this weekend was f*cking phenomenal and totally recommended if you feel the need to escape and reconnect.

Hence, today’s post will present 3 reasons why you should go ghost. They’re all things I noticed during my time in my self-constructed purgatory. So, without further ado, let’s get ghostin’!

(*In Aiden Zane* “BOO!”)

1. Going Ghost Opens The Door For Introspection

Once I made the conscious decision to turn off Diane (My iPhone), I knew I was on the right track to going completely ghost for the weekend. It’s fair to say I’ve been over-exerting my social battery lately.

Between tutoring, making book deliveries, online marketing, completing a course, helping out relatives, and keeping in-touch with close friends, I found myself drained to say the least.

So much so, that it was getting to the point where my mental health was being negatively affected and I began losing motivation to do things for myself.

Simple things that make a big difference on a day-to-day basis. Things like cleaning my room, emptying the trash, greasing my scalp, meditating, and even exercising.

Admittedly, I needed time to re-evaluate what I wanted out of life. What were my thoughts, my feelings about my current existence? More importantly, was I being fully present in my body, mind, and actions?

With the screaming silence provided by going ghost, I was able to comfortably explore these rather uncomfortable thoughts. And in doing so, I began to feel a sense of calm (well, after experiencing some existential dread, lol.)

Nevertheless, I was able to properly ground myself and reconnect with the things that made me happy – adequate alone time, good food, anime, music, and the curly-springed seductress known as my bed.

So, whenever you find yourself a bit overwhelmed (which may be often given yanno, it’s 2020) consider going ghost for a while. You may just be in need of some introspection. Because when you take care of your inner-self, care for your outer self follows naturally.

2. Going Ghost Makes You Less Reactive

After pretty much making yourself the center of your universe once again, you may start to experience serenity.

In other words, a strong wave of peace ushers over you as you sink deeper into a Netflix “Kakegurui” binge-a-thon.

(Seriously Insighters, if you haven’t watched “Kakegurui” on Netflix as yet, do yourself a favor. The comedy, suspense, animation style, and insanity will having you hooked and begging for more. Plus, Yumeko Jabami is wifey and she IS the moment!)

Oh yeah. Like I was saying, while in the depths of relaxation and self-indulgence, you start to feel the need to be deliberate about maintaining your peace.

Likewise, this mandate for peace becomes something you’re willing to actively achieve. And before you know it, you’ve grown cold to the temptations of checking your phone.

Who cares about what’s trending on Twitter? So what if your fave celeb just posted new photos on Instagram? I say “Oh well” to anxiety-stricken emails. And to hell with the funny memes now circulating Facebook! (Though those Minnis memes were hella hilarious.)

Additionally, you may start feeling unmoved by your immediate surroundings. Things done by relatives that would usually evoke annoyance, frustration, and rage are no longer phasing you.

You come to better understand that other people’s actions hardly ever have anything to do with you. And even if they do, you understand that their actions don’t warrant a reaction from you.

So, instead of disrupting zen mode over something frivilous, you simply amplify your peace. Opt to turn up your headphones a notch, go for a little walk, take in some sunlight, burn some incense, and so on.

By actively choosing to be the custodian of your own peace, you realize that going ghost has suddenly made you into a responsive badass as opposed to a reactive arseh*le.

3. It Helps You Plan Your Next Move

With a restored sense of self and a vendetta against anything trying to disrupt your peace, you’ve finally reaped the full benefits of going ghost. Hence, you’re now ready to step back into the matrix.

Now, I will caution you to gauge how long you’re ghosting for. Sure, I encourage you to go back when you feel fully ready. And this may take a little more time than just a two-day weekend.

However, staying out of reach for too long can have some adverse side effects. You can read about that in this post: Are You Ready To Return From The Void.

Certainly, after regaining both physical and mental power, you’re better able to plan your next move.

The unnecessary distractions that have kept you from receiving the insight and clarity you needed are no longer a factor.

Therefore, divine inspiration from the universe/God/whatever deity you pray to and makes you happy can rain down upon you and give you the boost of assurance you’ve been longing for.

So, the next time you’re feeling confuddled by the conf*ckery of life and don’t know what to do next, perhaps go ghost.

Give social media and the rest of the outside world a break. Realign with your heart’s frequency, tap back into source, and give yourself the love and attention you deserve.

And before you know it, what comes next will be unfolding before you, operating fully in your favor.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Insighters, life is like a fart sometimes – malodorous, suffocating, and lethal. And if you don’t open the window occasionally for some fresh air, you may not make it.

Not my best analogy, but I think you get the gist. Take care of yourselves and prioritize your mental health and overall well-being over everyone else and their feelings.

Trust me, once you lose your sanity, you’re almost guaranteed not to get it back. So take heed, go ghost, those who love you will understand your need for a breather.

Don’t feel guilty about it either, we’re all in these human bodies trying to figure sh*t out. Good things take time and what’s next for you will be worth the wait.

As always, take care of yourselves. Put your health and needs first. And continue to be your best, unapologetic self. Love you guys!

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